What I really need to get off of my chest though, is this thing that happened today. Ok, well there's this guy in my class and he's sort of a friend, but not really. The thing is he does the impossible to get on my nerves, and he usually does. Well, I try to not let him get to me. Actually, I sort of wish we could have a stronger friendship because he's really starting to grow up, but all he ever wants to do with me is joke around.
And well, sometimes, unintentionally I'm sure, he sort of hurts my feelings with the things that he says. And unfortunately, today I think I hurt his feeligns, because he was trying to help me out with something, and we were sitting together, and I just replied with this really rude comment. I could tell he was taken aback, and he knows that usually no matter what he says, I'm always nice. I feel so horrible right now. Guilty. It would be so much nicer if we could both just get along and stop with all the childishness. *le sigh* I really don't want him to think badly of me.
I was initially going to talk about this one other guy, but I'm too tired and I desperately need to sleep off my guilt. So yeah.
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*Sets down dish and sighs in relief, then massages pink nose with one paw*
About this guy friend you hurt the feelings of. First thing: send him an apology. Just tell him you are sorry, that you didn't want to hurt him, but were having a bad time right at that moment. It's likely he'll forgive you. Everyone knows what it feels like to snap at somebody and regret it later. I sure do.
Also, since you seem to be one of the type who is "usually so nice," sometimes this leads people to take advantage of your niceness and joke around and bug you more than they might somebody else. You may wish to tell him, at some time when you're not upset, that you would prefer he do less of the irritating stuff. People will mess with you more if they either feel like they can get away with it or they like to push your buttons.
Which leaves you with a choice if he keeps pushing your buttons. You can put up with him and try hard not to react (so maybe he'll think your buttons are now stuck, and get bored and irritate another person instead), or you can realize that he's not being nice to you and wander away until he grows up a little more.
*Auntie Spottedcat chews philosophcally on a carmel and wishes her mouth wasn't stuck almost shut*
Anyway, you probably won't have to get that drastic. Sometimes the apology and a short explanation will lead to a good talk, which may clear up a lot of his irritating behavior, as well as your guilty feelings.
Wow. Such good advice (!!????!) I give out. (Heh-heh-heh...)
Grins and tailchasing! - Spottedcat
And really, I've tried every tactic with him. I tried ignoring him completely--that just made it worse. He said he would keep on buggin me until I reacted. When I got angry and ... umm, "verbal", he would just laugh and keep on doing what he does best.
There is one thing though. Once I told him to grow up and was kind of offended. I found out later he hates people calling him juvenile. But he is, it's not anyone's fault.
It doesn't help matters that I used to have a small crush on him. *le sigh*
*grabs carmel from plate*
Here's to .... umm ... good advice and better days!